Girl, it can’t be EVERYONE else.

So, let's go ahead and put it out there...I'm sick of Tia Mowry and her homegirl, DDG.

I understand heartbreak and heartache, but, no matter how much we will it to, some relationships don't last.  All relationships aren't Ford, they aren't built tough. In any type of relationship, one party can grow, and the other not. In a relationship you either grow together or you grow apart, but some level of movement is guaranteed to occur, either up or down.

I'm not mad at the breakups, but I'm annoyed by the constant chatter and finger pointing. Both of the aforementioned parties have suffered from constant word vomit. I want to scream..."sit down, go heal, but more importantly, let's self-reflect". Tia wanted the divorce and since then, she has been dragging ole boy through the proverbial mud and in so doing, her twin caught a stray.

Throughout the annoying need to overshare with us, I have not heard Tia take responsibility for any part of the breakdown of her relationships. When she wished her and her sister were as close as they used to be she quickly backpedaled when social media got a whole of it and said she meant physically, not emotionally. But girl, if all of that were true, what role did you play in these breakdowns? Michael already told us to look at the man in the mirror and go on and ask him to change his ways.

Just imagine, if you will, you aren't always the victim, sometimes, in some way, you become the villain.  Although I wholeheartedly believe that I'm right, even when I'm wrong, I do know that I'm not always blameless.  Sometimes, I'm the pot and the stirrer.  Of course, I can finger point and blame others, but how would that help me? How would I grow from that exchange?  If change is inevitable, and I have taken an oath to be the change I wish to see, then I have to remind myself, "girl, it can't be everyone else...sometimes it's you".

"I am silver and exact. I have no preconceptions. Whatever I see, I swallow immediately. Just as it is, unmisted by love or dislike, I am not cruel, only truthful." - Sylvia Path

Let's chat: Do you self-reflect in every (almost every) negative situation or do you think self-reflection is for losers and you're always on your get back, ish? Let's chat...comment below.

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